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13-11-2017 04:33 PM
13-11-2017 04:33 PM
BPD’s wrongly perceived
I’ve been thinking about the way my BPD is perceived by others without BPD, A LOT. I’ve come here straight from reading hateful & hurtful comments on an article in Facebook. Where better to vent my frustrations but a place where I am anonymous and am not being perceived as “attention seeking”
Let’s get to it.
My Symptoms of BPD are harsh yes, I live in a constant state of emotional highs and lows. When I am happy I am extremely happy, I LOVE that side of myself and I certainly wish I could stay in that state of living forever but when I am feeling low everything within me changes, my confidence, my self esteem, I look terrible, I feel terrible and when this happens (this is grieving, we are grieving some ridiculous mind switch that makes absolutely no sense to ourselves or anyone else for that matter) we act out (if we haven’t like myself had long term help) as a means to sooth ourselves, we want to be healthy stable people more than anything. I suppose I can only speak for myself in saying that when I am telling someone about how I feel I am not attention seeking! Imagine one of your parents dies, it’s a terrible emotional thing to happen and you’re not attention seeking when grieving their loss, you’re trying to feel better when talking about this death, we are only trying to feel better! The things I do when in a low state can be extremely self destructive and hurting myself does hurt other people, I take responsibility for this, I wear my wrong doings and I try to fix myself after all the stupid drunk horribleness that spirals out of control and my more recent OD, I do not do these things because I want people to feel sorry for me I do them because I can not cope with my damn personality and all the bloody chaos that comes with it! I am my own worst enemy and I want nothing more than to live life like a normal person, I am not trying to seek pity I am trying to seek someone to confide in and understand me. I just want to be understood, I just want compassion not pity!
Why are we catergorised like psychopaths? I care about other people and I will try to help other people. Just because we are largely misunderstood social freaks doesn’t mean we want to live this way. Others perceptions of something they could never truly understand is so damn hurtful. I am a loving, giving and numerous person with a pretty crappy diagnosis.
Compassion and understanding not hate please!
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13-11-2017 07:50 PM
13-11-2017 07:50 PM
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Hi @Daisydukes,
It is super nice to meet you. I am in a bit of a dark space right now and thus not able to respond properly. However, I wanted to let you know that I have BPD and I absolutely 100% relate to what you are saying. I was diagnosed in 1996 and there has been SOME improvement in attitudes towards the diagnosis since then, but there is still a loooooooong way to go. For example, I recently discovered that on the brand new Head-to-Health government website, it says that people with a personality disorder might find it helpful to change their attitude. Yep, stigma towards those of us with that particular diagnosis is well and truly alive and well in 2017!
Anyway, I will try and come back and say a proper hello to you tomorrow. Tonight my big feelings are just a bit too big for me to think clearly enough to write a decent response to you. However, I just really wanted you to know how much I hear you and there are many others here in Forum Land who I know can also relate to what you are saying.
@Sans911 @CheerBear @Faith-and-Hope
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13-11-2017 07:55 PM - edited 13-11-2017 07:57 PM
13-11-2017 07:55 PM - edited 13-11-2017 07:57 PM
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13-11-2017 08:08 PM
13-11-2017 08:08 PM
Re: BPD’s wrongly perceived
I was new to BPD when I arrived here ..... for a different reason ...., and met some beautiful BPD challenged people with Lived Experience to share, helping us all to understand more about what BPD is how to come to terms with the challenges it presents.
Everyone here is challenges with something, and the depth and variety of experiences are not really comparable ..... it's all different for different people, different circumstances, different reasons and different seasons.
What is common here is empathy and understanding ..... the preparedness to care and share, and help each other through ..... learn about each other's journeys and what we can all contribute and / or take away with us.
Lovely to meet you, and I can see you have met some others here already.
💐🌷🌿
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13-11-2017 08:24 PM
13-11-2017 08:24 PM
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14-11-2017 12:58 AM
14-11-2017 12:58 AM
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Hi @Daisydukes
Sorry to hear that you have not recieved genuine appropriate responses to normal emotions given your circumstances. Glad you could post here on the forum. Hope it helps a tiny bit. There are some great people floating around this space.
Regards Apple
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14-11-2017 07:39 PM
14-11-2017 07:39 PM
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I wanted to cry as I think my mother is one of the people who I feel doesn’t understand me the most. I didn’t react though, I got a little bit defensive but I didn’t get angry. She apologised but ahh it’s just hurtful
@pheonix_rising @CheerBear @Faith-and-Hope @Sans911 @Appleblossom
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14-11-2017 07:43 PM
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14-11-2017 08:29 PM
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It's good to see you again and hope to see you around some more. Hope your night is ok for you.
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14-11-2017 08:42 PM
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Well done you, spitting it out here and then waking on past it ...... one of the great things about Forumland ...... !