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24-09-2016 06:05 AM
24-09-2016 06:05 AM
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24-09-2016 08:18 AM
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24-09-2016 08:19 AM
24-09-2016 08:19 AM
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Have you seen any doctors about this way you're feeling? I'd really like you to have a chat to LifeLine 13 11 14 They are available 24 hours a day, every day.
Have you been to a solicitor? As you've been a stay at home Dad for so long and the ex walked away leaving the children with you it seems to me that she needs to prove why she was happy to let you bring them up and only claimed you were unfit when for financial reasons you returned them to her. That is a man who considered the best interests of his children first. I feel deeply for you as that is an enormous loss to bear.
Please fight against what has happened because the laws of our land are very clear. Whether you're mentally unfit or not can only be determined by a psychiatrist and written documents to a court from your psychiatrist as well as other supporting documentation.
Please contact Legal Aid for assistance. This is not a case that can be solved without legal help.
Above all else this is not the time to give up on you or your children. They need you now so please start talking to your GP and ask for a mental health plan so you can see a psychologist on Medicare. All these professionals are there to help you. A solicitor will help you with arranging Financial
Orders which determines how joint assets and all other things including the joint bank account will be divided.
It's a devestating situation for you and the pain is huge but you do have a future with your children and it's really important for you to try to hold on and get the help you need now.
Take care and keep writing to us because we do care. Quite a few people here have gone through the same sort of thing so there is true understanding here of how awful all this must be for you.
Here's a big hug to say I care.
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24-09-2016 09:54 AM
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24-09-2016 12:13 PM
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24-09-2016 01:50 PM - edited 24-09-2016 01:53 PM
24-09-2016 01:50 PM - edited 24-09-2016 01:53 PM
Re: no choices
Hello dear @seamusunsean
As @Princessmolly said never give up - as it will shatter your children and have negative psychological and emotional adverse impacts on them for the rest of their lives if you were to suicide. They would believe that you didn't love them enough to stay (have been through it). And it will effect their self esteem. They only have one father and will need you in their lives. I know you love them and want the best for them - don't give up for their sakes.
I have known quite a few people who received legal aid in the family law court system. I don't know where you live but the community centre where I work offers free legal advice and counselling. Please ring around your local community centres and charity organisations. Tell them the financial and emotional distress you are in - tell them everything and ask where you can gain adequate legal assistance. Don't give up until you find it.
It can be devastating what you are going through and gaining help the above way is so important for you. We are here for you also. But the main victims here are the children and their welfare must come first. I know you will fight for them and not give up because you love them. It's hard now but in time it will get easier and you will eventually have access to your children as well. You have rights - you just need to exercise them by doing the above and find the right legal representation. Don't give up - it will all work out in the end.
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25-09-2016 08:54 AM
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25-09-2016 03:57 PM
25-09-2016 03:57 PM
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Ive been going through the family court system for the last 3 years. ugh. its extrememly traumatising in itself.. without the rest of it to get through. I have so much i want to reply but i have to go out in a minute. However you can get legal aid for family court, i had it last year for a little while while i wasnt working. Don't give up.
i hope you have a phone call/access with your kids soon,
take care
lj
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26-09-2016 03:31 PM
26-09-2016 03:31 PM
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I'm so sorry to read what you're going through. As the others have said, no one deserves to go through what you are at the moment.
I'm not sure if you have come across any of these organisations, but they seem like they could be helpful to connect with:
I'm worried about your thoughts of suicide. Are you currently connecting with a professional or organisation about these thoughts? You don't have to go through this alone.
You received wonderful support from other members here - and I hope can see how much support you have.
Nik