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05-05-2020 01:03 PM
05-05-2020 01:03 PM
Breaking through
So, as many have, I have had a life time of struggles from sexual abuse to mental and physical abuse. I am stuck, not long after i met my partner of 13years i was diagnosis with bi polar. She is AMAZING and helps me t through but I can't trust. I understand love and trust go hand in hand but I am scared I am going to eventually lose her. I don't know how to trust. What do i do?
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05-05-2020 06:22 PM
05-05-2020 06:22 PM
Re: Breaking through
Yes, I have been together with my husband for 27 years and I still get s ared of loosing him.
It's only now, after a few years of regular counseling that I'm starting to trust him.
What worked for me was focusing every night on the good stuff that happen every day. I think that for me that was the key.
I understand were all different and I will not tell you what to do and maybe it's worth the try.
Good luck.
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05-05-2020 09:07 PM
05-05-2020 09:07 PM
Re: Breaking through
Good on you! I will be back on track like you one day I hope ,cause I love her but I have become nasty all because of my past. I think I have become an abuser cause I have aloud my fears to control all she does. This is not me and I am scared. The fight to rid these insecurities is bigger than anything I have had to overcome and there's been some really bad things to overcome. I found love and I am just ruining something so very and truely amazing.
Thank you again.
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06-05-2020 12:21 PM
06-05-2020 12:21 PM
Re: Breaking through
I too experienced a very abusive relationship and have a lot of emotional baggage that has stayed with me for many years. It stops me from being able to communicate properly for a fear of conflict and abuse comes over me. It is something I am still trying to repair but it does take time.
A lot of people on here will be able to give you some advice. Good luck and nice to meet you.
Blep 😸