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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

My dear @Shaz51  ... just caught up on all your news from the past 2 weeks since I was last here.

You honestly do so much for so many others in your life (including here) and at the same time dealing with so many of your own serious health issues. You are such a strong, resilient ... and downright wonderful ... lady.  You are one of those people who just keep getting back up and doing what they need to do in order to keep going.  I admire you so very much.  How I wish life were easier for you ... if it could (just this one time) deal you a winning hand.

 

Its not the end of the world to be in a situation of needing to consider dialysis and/or going on the kidney transplant list.  You knew this was coming, especially since you have been having all these kidney related issues the past few months.  But knowing ... does not make it any easier to accept once the specialist says the words.  It would have still come as a shock and accepting the inevitable will take some time to digest.  I would give you my strength, if I had any to give.  Sadly I dont.  But I do have some very good personal experiences with people who have had kidney transplants.  I had an auntie who was on dialysis for several years before finally getting a transplant.  She did really well once she had the transplant and lived to quite a good age.  That was probably 15 years ago now, and the process is constantly improving.  So that has to bode well.  I also knew a fellow that I worked with some 25 years ago, he was only in his 40's when he had a kidney transplant.  The first transplant was rejected, but because of his relatively young age he was blessed with a second transplant.  And that was highly successful.  He is now close to 70yo and is still going strong.  He lives life to the full and does not appear to have any restrictions. He is a friend of my husbands as well, so we get to see him from time to time.

 

I am concerned about you though Shaz, because clearly you are not well.  And you have so many caring commitments on your plate with your Mum and your Mr Shaz.  You honestly do need to start to slow down a little.  If you dont, your body will take the matter out of your hands.  Can you have another go at applying for a carers payment (for either Mr Shaz and/or your Mum) or a DSP for yourself?    

 

Please please please Shaz ... take care.  You are important to so many in your RL and also to so many of us here.

 

Sherry 💕

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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

@Former-Member 

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It helps to hear stories with good outcomes.  NOt something I had any experience with ...

@Shaz51 

Take Heart. One step at a time.

We are backing you here on the forum.

Smiley Happy

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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

thank you @Former-Member , @Appleblossom Heart

yes i have known for a while that it will happen 

going to a information day but it has been cancalled at the moment ,

my  specialist is leading towards transplant , so will get tested and go on the list is the next step 

mr shaz said he will give me one of his kidneys if he is a match 

we are slowly cutting back , yes like to do less before my body decides for me 

same as Mr shaz mental and physical health , trying to get him to work less too 

 

 

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Thinking of you and sending warmest wishes @Shaz51   And wonderful to see you too @Former-Member   Love to you both xx

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Hey @Shaz51 

 

With you. meadow.jpg

We had a positive day today, hope it helps, sharing it with you.

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Re: Not sure what to do !!!

Helllo @Wanderer@eth@Appleblossom , @Former-Member , @greenpea@Adge@Darcy@Determined@Dec@Faith-and-Hope@Smc@Mrsjones@outlander@Jacques@Mazarita 

thinking of you and Mr @Darcy lots today , hope U R OK xx

awww so many decisions to think about 

about when ?? 

mr shaz is just now starting to worry a bit about everything now 

mum is getting 6 meals now through meals on wheels 

still getting her arm redressed every second day at the hospital 

when do i isolate  ourselves being self employed 

is mowing still ok 

cleaning , when do we stop 

 

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hi @Shaz51 it is troubling and worrying times.

 

i think with your self employment being outdoors and not in close contact with anyone, if you wear face masks and use hand sanitiser you guys should be ok, with your health conditions @Shaz51 you might need to be a little more carful and so will your mum. if it is possible maybe try to do some more hobbies maybe? mr shaz could gewt back into photography to help with his anxiety. and maybe you could get some rest over this time as you have been really busy this year.

 

hugs my dear friend.

 

thinking of you and mr shaz too

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thank you my awesome friend @Jacques 

just finding it hard to be the sole decider with everything 

 

mr shaz says he is getting worse with everything 

 

 

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i nderstand @Shaz51 maybe your family could help with the burden, looking after your mum it is not fair you having to do it all on your own with your health problems.

 

do you think maybe Mr Shaz might go see his doctor about his worsening Anxiety? or his mental health team?

 

lots oof hugs my friend. your not alone, remember you have such amazing support here to vent and to get support

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do you think maybe Mr Shaz might go see his doctor about his worsening Anxiety? -- no he won`t @Jacques 

not yet anyway !!

 

or his mental health team?-- mr shaz has no health team 

will be ok my friend xxxx, hugs to you too Heart

i am off to bed now 

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