10-10-2019 08:34 PM
10-10-2019 08:34 PM
hello @Sophie1 , @Former-Member , @outlander , @Determined , @Corny
@Former-Member, do you try to do things that Mr darcy says , or do you think about things he says and work out the best way to go
hope this makes sense my friend xx
10-10-2019 08:57 PM
10-10-2019 08:57 PM
I think I am too much a people pleaser @Former-Member xx
10-10-2019 09:12 PM - edited 11-10-2019 08:21 AM
10-10-2019 09:12 PM - edited 11-10-2019 08:21 AM
Always think about what he says @Shaz51 just as I would not expect him to do everything I suggest. I don't know of any two people, irrespective of their relationship who agree 100% with each others ideas.
I think it important to let the other person know that you can see things from their perspective and then put your point of view across. Sometimes it pays to delay the conversation and have it later.
ie Dearest Darcy, yesterday you suggested that we .. if I understand you right it is because .... I have been thinking about it and feel that these points are of concern/ it is a great idea but .... or ... it is a great idea and let's go for it. For us to be as to do so we might have to make some adjustments, what suggestions have you got to help make this happen?
10-10-2019 09:44 PM
10-10-2019 09:44 PM
thank you @Former-Member
sometimes i am unsure of myself and then you reassure that what i am doing is totally right
as your last post , I do this and I will continue to do this as I think it helps mr shaz too
13-10-2019 05:22 PM
13-10-2019 05:22 PM
Hi @Former-Member
Does Mr Darcy punishes himself by saying I should of done this or I should of done that after he has done something
@Sophie1 , @outlander , @Determined , @Corny , @Bunniekins
13-10-2019 05:34 PM
13-10-2019 05:34 PM
@Shaz51 Mr Darcy does have regrets which crop up on occasion, some are quite historical.
13-10-2019 05:38 PM
13-10-2019 05:38 PM
Yes same here @Former-Member
13-10-2019 05:44 PM
13-10-2019 05:44 PM
It is very rare that Mr Darcy wants comfort when he is ruminating @Shaz51
13-10-2019 05:59 PM
13-10-2019 05:59 PM
Ah ha @Former-Member
13-10-2019 07:13 PM
13-10-2019 07:13 PM
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