27-05-2018 12:41 AM - edited 27-05-2018 12:51 AM
27-05-2018 12:41 AM - edited 27-05-2018 12:51 AM
Hi Faith-and-Hope, i agree there are similarities with what you are up against, and those of us caring for someone suicowdal. Your hubby is self harming in subtle ways and i know with anorexia it can damage vital organs & life expectancy. No doubt it frightens you that you might lose him, but also the moods & distancing himself. So hard to reach them.
My sis has been more outgoing lately, out to a quiet cafe and even did the dishes tonight.
I'm trying to worry less and self care more. Not easy.
@Dots, is your daughter ok, are you?
27-05-2018 12:49 AM
27-05-2018 12:49 AM
Not easy at all .....
Hi @silhouette .... 🌷
It took me a while to realise that high levels of stress require high levels of TLC as you bring the stress down, and as a way to bring the stress down. Taking that time out can make you feel a bit guilty, but it’s actually prescriptive, and it took some panic attacks with psychosomatic symptoms to get that message through to me.
I am glad you are working on it, and glad that things are a little more settled now for your sis.
27-05-2018 01:01 AM
27-05-2018 01:01 AM
thanks Faith-And-Hope, when does that guilt trip thing stop when you are having time to yourself? I still worry something might happen to her while i'm 'having a good time all day 😨 Got us over a barrel half the time haha!
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27-05-2018 01:04 AM
27-05-2018 01:04 AM
Oh, falling asleep now,
Good night?
27-05-2018 01:11 AM
27-05-2018 01:11 AM
I think understanding that you can become a patient too helps.
I worry when my hubby is out jogging that he might collapse, if I don’t turn my mind off to it.
Distracting yourself is really important. Music helps me with that.
Goodnight @silhouette .... sleep well.
27-05-2018 10:18 AM
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27-05-2018 12:17 PM
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27-05-2018 04:34 PM
27-05-2018 04:34 PM
My partner has BPD in addition to Schizoaffective disorder. Last year she started believing assassins were coming to get her and the only way to avoid them torturing her to death was for her to end herself. IT was horrible trying to negotiate safety plans. Ultimately I had to for her own safely place her in a private psychiatric hospital in Portland. They took great care of her but another thing that I think really helped was I visited her every single day, sometimes twice a day, no matter how inconvenient so as to show her she mattered and that she would get through this and that there was nothing but love and acceptance on the other side of the hospitalization. My partner told me that is what got her through it. So maybe if you have to hospitalize her again you make sure to visit her once or twice a day every day.
29-05-2018 08:04 PM
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