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07-07-2022 12:30 AM
07-07-2022 12:30 AM
Re: 🤷♂️ boundaries
Checking in - how are you going!
Two of my step children have recently been diagnosed, and I’m a trigger. So I relate ++ to you. 💕 take care
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06-08-2022 06:48 PM
06-08-2022 06:48 PM
Re: 🤷♂️ boundaries
Hi @Hibiscus1 @Topsy-turvy1 ,
I hear you both. I’ve been banned from places in the past because of my BPD rage.
Sad as it is, but I was always kept in the Acute care unit as an inpatient because I was so high risk.
SH was my way of coping. To people around, SH was a way of telling them I needed help. Yet I was too afraid to receive help. In my early 20s, I now know I was y ready to be helped. I think I wasn’t sick enough of being sick - yet.
But a decade later, things came to a head. It was do or die. I’d either throw myself into therapy or through myself into death.
As a last resort, I myself reached out. I’m the past everyone else reached out for me. But this time, I did it. And this was the beginning of my recovery.
Its been a long road, but totally worth it. However, it was a road I needed to travel myself. I had to take charge of my own recovery, and not anyone else. I had to be ready. So in my 30s, by recovery started.
All the best.
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08-08-2022 09:29 PM
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08-08-2022 10:11 PM
08-08-2022 10:11 PM
Re: 🤷♂️ boundaries
Hi
thank you for asking
I’ve been struggling - I’m trying to figure out how I can keep living with my step son, and protect myself emotionally.
seems words like …. ‘His behaviours’ and ‘manipulative behaviours’ - are problematic.
I do understand he has BPD, but I feel his choices are more than BPD.
what’s acceptable behaviours? When you look on FB groups etc, and see parents living with violence, theft and abuse +++ I Think I must be lucky? 🤷♂️
we don’t have that - but we have a constant low level aggression ….. which builds to a crisis.
Life’s tricky.
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20-08-2022 02:27 PM
20-08-2022 02:27 PM
Re: 🤷♂️ boundaries
Ohhh @Hibiscus1 , hugs to you,
I know I used to rage and could have potentially hurt someone, but I didn’t. There’s no excuse for aggression and violence. Yes, the emotional pain can be unbearable for a borderline that they go to extremes to ‘numb the pain’, but you need to make sure you are safe.
My heart goes out to you,
BPDSurvivor
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